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Online
Matrimonial Safety Tips
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A
great deal has been said about the issues of privacy and credibility
on the Internet, especially in matters concerning matrimonial matchmaking
and forming serious relationships. However, there are few who would
confess that matchmaking in the real world is also not entirely
free from duplicity. While it is much easy for people to bluff and
provide fake information about themselves on the Internet, the same
can also be done by certain crafty individuals in real life. The
fact is, regardless of where or how you meet someone, matchmaking
is always a gamble. And even though one cannot always be 100% sure
about these things, a little caution will nevertheless minimize
the risk involved in the matters of heart. |
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Don't
trust easily and blindly |
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While
love and trust might be the noblest of all human virtues preached
and expected to be followed, in today's real and virtual world,
it is important for us to exercise our 'head' over matters of 'heart'
and guard against trusting the untrustworthy. While interacting
with a person on the Internet, you must be cautious and patient
and avoid rushing into a relationship. Before bestowing your faith
in a person completely, never forget to ask yourself. |
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What do you really know about this person?
Is
the information about him/her sufficient enough for you to proceed
further in the relationship?
How
can you be sure of what you know about him/her?
Is
there any information you’ve asked for, but have not been
provided by him/her?
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As
an added precaution, it would be better if you set up a secondary
email account to be used just for this relationship, which you can
shut down if things do not seem right at any point of time. Do not
give out your telephone number and personal contact details until
you really are sure of the person.
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 Honour
your intuitions |
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While
dealing with relationships in general and on the Internet in particular,
people often tend to dismiss intuition in favour of seemingly hard
facts and logical explanations. However, even though we cannot generalise
our experiences or opinions, we must never disregard our instincts,
even when they cannot be logically explained. Because when something
feels wrong, it generally is. Similarly, when someone appears untrustworthy,
they usually are. If it is within your capacity, you could even
crosscheck on the other person with the help of a confidential source.
And, while you are doing so, ask yourself why you are interested
in forming a relationship with someone you feel the need to investigate?
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Watch
closely for clues |
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Watch
out for any form of 'inconsistency' or 'unexplainable' behaviour
on the part of your potential mate.You should be concerned if he/she
does any of the following without offering an acceptable explanation:
Frequently
disappears and becomes inaccessible by phone and/or email
Provides
inconsistent information about age, interests, appearance, marital
status, profession, employment, and so on
Refuses
to speak to you on the phone after establishing ongoing, online
intimacy
Refuses
to give you a home number and only calls you from work
Doesn't
provide direct answers to direct questions
Appears
in person to be significantly different from his or her online persona
Never
introduces you to friends, professional associates or family members
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Be honest and trustworthy yourself |
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If
we want to hear the truth, we must start by telling the truth, even
when it might not seem easy or advantageous. And we must conduct
our emotions and ourselves in a responsible manner. Don't fall in
love at the click of a mouse. Don't become prematurely intimate
with someone, even if that intimacy only occurs online. Live by
standards of honesty and decency. Keep a check on your emotions.
Don't let the realities of real world fade into the vague fantasies
of virtual world. Be your own guard. Remember a genuine & long-lasting
relationship is never an act of impulse; It develops gradually and
naturally on it's own with time. |
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