If
dreams were sold, if stars were reachable, if the moon would agree,
parents would bring them all down and place it in the palm of their
child. For people, everything is fair in love, war and the smile
on their child’s face and the twinkle in his eyes.
A child is the joyous celebration
of parent’s own life. Parenthood is a proud moment for a
couple to whom the birth of a child is bringing in a life. In
the eyes of the little one, the parents embed their dreams and
await its fulfillment with a love that knows no boundaries.
When their nurturing and all the
pampering is not questioned, why is their expectations or wishes
for the child’s wedding questioned? Are parents expected
to just take care of a child’s needs and complete it as
a responsibility, with no expectations or affections involved?
Do they stand nowhere in the selection or election of a spouse
for their child?
When all their previous judgments
were in favour of the child’s benefit, why not in the issue
of marriage? Don’t they want the best for their child? Don’t
they know what’s best for their child?
The child-parent clashes over marriage
is a major issue these days. Both sides have their points, but
how to solve the issue amicably without heartbreak to either side
is the question.
In a country like India, parents
of the recent generations have been very liberal towards their
children. All the liberties that they did not enjoy as kids have
been bestowed upon their children. Every parent bring up their
child as the emperor to their world. The child is free to choose
everything of his fancy from a tender age and none of his demands
are denied. When refused, the child who grows with such pampered
upbringing resents refusal and resorts to aggressive behavior.
A parent’s acceptance or denial
is taken for granted and hardly matters, as the child knows he
shall be obliged. This is not a sign of evil or non-consideration
on the child’s part, but an attitude that has been imbibed
by his up-bringing.
Such a child, who later becomes eligible
for marriage, has views, wishes and wants of his own. With the
belief that his expectations are the same as his parents, he chooses
a spouse of his liking. This could be opposed by the parents and
it leads to an emotional turmoil between them.The child mistakes
the parent’s refusal or non-acceptance as a non-consideration
of his feelings. The parents on their side feel it is a restriction
on their rights over their child. This leads to the fight of rights
between the parents and their child resulting in bitterness for
both.
